Fantastic Day

Yesterday i met a lady with a child just like T – C is the same age to within a couple of weeks and very similar. I got talking to her mum about something else entirely (BF older babies – i want to start a group!) and it came apparent that T and C weren’t going to sit and play so we went for a walk by the beach and to the park – and we just kept saying to each other ‘Does your child do….’ and they did – and we shared our concerns about possible diagnosis (adhd, autism etc) although we both agreed that they are just a variety of normal. Interestingly – C although not BF has a dummy that her mum can’t wean her off and seems to be vital to calm her down – sounds very familiar.

C is at nursery and finding it very difficult – and Mum is constantly called in to meetings to deal with ‘behaviour’ issues. i know that this is what would have happened with T too and am so glad i decided that it was a bad idea and that we are going to HE for a while at least. We agreed that it wasn’tso much a behaviour but an individual thing – but of course nurseries can’t deal very easily with individuals – everyone has to fit into the mold..

I t was fantastic to meet someone who understands what i go through and the worries and concerns i have. i have given her my phone and email addresses so hopefully she will get back in touch.

We have continued with the work books from Smiths and Thomas has become very adept at working out what rhymes and what doesn’t even without saying the words out loud. However we have all been ill this week and i have been dragging myself through days – no meal or even day planning has taken place. Hopefully the cold will finally shift over the weekend and we can get  back to normal a bit.

Jan introduced me to a coordinator from Homestart who is coming to visit me next week – a volunteer could come for a few hours a week and help out – which would allow me to have some 1:1 time with each of the boys and be truly fantastic.

I received a Sonlight catalogue today – I am going to get a lot of ideas from there i think though I am not sure that a curriculum is the way froward for us – at least atm it will be interesting to see it..


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I am a wuss

Both MIL and my mum have asked me about melrose and who organised it etc and I have not told them at all about HE. I am fairly sure both of them will be anti so I have just made up about us going away with a group of ‘Crunchy’ Mums and children we have met through a yahoo group. I am thinking we have until the summer to not say anything to them but by 4 everyone will expect him to be at nursery so I am going to have to come up with a really good sort reason (for general people we meet) and a long one for close friends and family.

I think the short one can be along the lines of – we are Home educating as I don’t think that school would meet his needs just now and I think that school would be too restrictive for him.

The long one is going to take alot more thinking about!

on the upside I have two emails from relatively local people wanting to meet up Aberdeen way which would be great – the problem is where when there are a variety of ages – we need somewehere where the kids can run around and the adults can chat!

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Getting restarted

Well we went to Muddlepuddle camp at Melrose last week and it was fab! really great to meet up with other HE families – see how normal they are(!) and I learned lots. T played very nicely most of the time (to my utter shock i have to admit) especially with older children. He had a few ‘incidents’ with younger ones but that was only to be expected I suppose. R, having taken a few steps before we left, didn’t start properly walking whilst we were away but mastered coming downstairs – which may be more functional! I suppose i would have liked to chat a bit more with parents os older children who are needing to be educated ratehr than the pre-school ones who i was with most of the time – but theres plenty of timefor that next year.

I have come back re-invigorated about doing some HE and also about blogging – other peoples blogs are really inspirational 🙂 So education wise – I have bought some workbooks from WHSmiths which are working on pre-reading and maths skills – rhyming, matching etc and T seems to quite enjoy doing 5-10 mins of them a day. Also we have subscribed to Education City which is keyboard based skills. Someone on IWMM has reccomended the Kumon MAzes book – so will add that one to my next Amazon order – Purposeful pencil movement seems like a good thing. Quite frankly though I feel that he really needs to develop more social skills and a bit more self-control as a priority – I know he is only 3 but today he knocked R down the stairs, threw washing around etc – and i blame myself as because we all came back from Melrose with a cold we didn’t go out yesterday so he has too much energy! he is also grumpy becuase he is really snotty so the result is unhappy boy.

Today we looked at words that rhyme and odd ones out – the task itself presented no problems – though some of the pictures had to be explained to him and he did some mentally without me going through the exercise first. He also wanted to do some of the joining the bits himself – but strayed into drawing random spiders webs and train lines! Someone has suggested that join the dots and mazes are a good activity so I wil se what i can find – I think we are going to need a printer!

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All been ill

Must remember never to use childcare again! R was in the creche on Monday whilst I helped at Kindergym – and on wednesday was miserable and had a high temperature – then sick on Thursdau, Thomas was ill on Saturday and I started on Monday, was not well on Tuesday and am finally feeling right again today.

Needless to say no-one has coped well with being ill – Thoms and I have shouted and screamed and cried at eack other and I have been a really good example of ‘bad mummy’. My MIL said to me that as you get older the times you most regret are those when you shouted at your children. Must remember that..

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Its been a busy and challenging week. I am feeling shattered and have an IBS flare up which is not going to help the weekend go smoothly.

Kindergym went well on Monday – Thomas acted up a bit as I was there but nothing too bad. He is a very thoughtful little boy and often had an expression of deep concentration on his face when listening or doing an activity. At the end Shaila called me over and said that she was a bit concerned that Thomas doesn’t always understand her as he doesn’t react when she says something. I think its more to do with him planning a response – he so often answers a question with a long statement or another question rather than just yes/no. I have no concerns that he has comprehension problems – although selective hearing Sometimes. Robert was fine in the creche and was asleep in one of the leaders arms when I came to collect him.

Wednesday started off fine but by lunchtime Robert was obviously poorly – lacklustre and whiny – An investigation discovered a back tooth had come through – by evening he hd a bit of a scary temperature, however he spat out Calpol but was fine overnight.

Thursday morning he woke up seemingly better which was good as we had a busy day planned. In the morning we went to a Subsonics ‘Teddy Bears picnic’ at church – around 40 small children plus Mums gathered for fun and games – they started off with songs and then made a teddy mask. Thomas was a bit daunted by all the children I think and was very quiet – he did join in but very queitly. Robert really enjoyed watching the mayhem. Snack was Fruit Shoots – chocolate cake and skittles, what do people think of when planning snacks! 10 minutes later mayhem ensued – kids were runing around madly and even thomas (who needless to say had had water and a plainish biscuit was getting wild – I asked what he wanted to do and he said he wanted to go – so we did . I think he showed a bit of insight that he wasn’t coping with the amount of children etc. We went to the park for 20 mins and then went to the community centre and met Leslie for lunch – that was hard work as her DS wanted to be asleep rather than eating and was very whiny.

In the afternoon we met Elaine and Hayley for a family activity day at the library. There was a professional story teller who was good but didn’t really keep thomas’s attention for too long – too mny princesses and no trains in the story! So we went to the activties upstairs and had fun playing with water (measuring) and scales (weighing) and a bug that moved around the floor (sequencing). All this time I was trying to get Robert to sleep and he was resisting – he was also getting warm again :(. We left and walked up the hill with Elaine.

When we got home I fed Robert to sleep and then he woke up and was sick – I changed us both – he was sick again and again 😦 . Poor lamb. Thomas was plonked in front of the tv whilst I dealt with the washing and stuff.

Friday morning he was much better but Thomas was ‘insupportable’ in a reaction – he weed on the floor refused to eat and made lots of mess. Robert was refusing to sleep and when I did get him to nod off thomas was making lots of noise and waking him up on purpose – grrrrr. The day got better though as we (I) made quite a successful submarine out of a plastic bottle, playdough tub and lots of parcel tape!

I fell exhausted into bed at 8:30 which was just as well as I was woken by Robert at 5:30 – his insides are sore I think as we have had 2 dirty nappies in a hour and his tummy is rumbling :(.

Plans for the weekend – wasing and tidying – must spend some timewith my husband too!

Thought for the day : ‘Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence’ – Robert Frost

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Had a day yesterday with a resurgance of my SPD. Really painful and I was on the couch for most of the afternoon. Dh made lunch – he started at around 9 and wasn’t ready to go to church at 10:30. So I took the boys. T settled into Sunday scholl without problems despit initially saying he wouldn’t stay without me. They fed him junk – again but he seemed to have been fine. R spent no time alone at the creche. Whereas today he has to as I am on ‘parent duty’ at Kindergym..

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We have a friend with a little girl who is just older than T who we meet up with once a week to do craft and baking activities with. Yesterday we made fairy cakes – lots of mess but the end result was edible and some of the m quite pretty – this is introducing weighing and basic cooking techniques but also gives oppurtunity for socialisation. T was a bit hyper and not great yesterday as he hadn’t had sufficient exercise – we waited in all day for the stairgate man – who didn’t come – grrrrrrr so another day in today.

Have booked for the MP camp

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